I’m late…

but I’m finally watching The Wire and I’ve never been more in lust with Idris Elba than before! ha!

I finally watched DJANGO!

I know, I know, I am late. lol

I must say that the movie was AH-MAY-ZING. The way Quentin Tarantino was able to illustrate the harsh realities of slavery via Hollywood…he’s one of the best in his work. 

I was skeptical about watching Django after hearing some of the reasons people were against the movie, but I couldn’t disagree more.

I applaud him.

Anonymous asked: Wow!!! Thank you so much Ada for your very thoughtful advice!! I think that I am going to go ahead and just see how things go with him. (Crosses fingers and prays that I don't lose a friend). By the way, I love your new hair cut!! It looks freaking amazing on you! xoxo

Yay! Send me an invite to the wedding lol

And thank you! I’m still getting used to it and how to work this whole natural hair/edgy cut thing lol

Anonymous asked: Hey Ada, One of my guy friend's told me that he likes me. While I love love love his personality I am just not physically attracted to him at all (he also happens to be three inches shorter than me). Should I give him a shot or just tell him that were better off as friends???

Hi Anon!

Hmmm, so this is tricky, so forgive me if you find me contradicting myself lol

I can sit up here and tell you that looks don’t matter, but that’ll just be bullsh*t lol. Looks do matter—they aren’t everything, but they do matter to a certain extent. However, I will say that it’s not important if other people don’t find your partner/potential partner attractive, but IT IS important that YOU find them attractive.  

But attraction doesn’t have to be based solely on looks, it could also be one’s personality, charisma, attitude about life, etc… You already tapped on the personality aspect, which is great, because in the long run, looks really don’t matter, but a great personality is everlasting. 

Now in terms of giving this person a shot?? I think you have to think about the repercussions of it potentially not working out and how it can possibly ruin your friendship. Do you think it is worth the risk? But on the other hand, if you all end up working out, you can have a really great relationship that is built on a solid foundation of friendship. So it may be a risk worth taking.

Do you think you can look past the physical? If you can, I say go for it. But if you can’t then I say stay friends. At the end of the day, as I previously stated, while looks aren’t everything, you do have to find your partner attractive. And if you aren’t attracted to this person, for whatever reason, no matter how much you try to convince yourself that he has a bomb personality, it may be detrimental in the long run. 

Because you all have a friendship, I would definitely proceed with caution. If this was a random off of the street that you just wanted to test the waters with, then I would say go for it because you honestly have nothing to lose. But in this case, if things don’t work out, you run the risk of losing a friend. 

On a more serious note, at the end of the day, think about the fundamental elements that make up a successful, loving relationship. You know, things like honesty, fidelity, compassion, willingness to compromise, trustworthiness, etc. If you think your friend can bring these qualities to the relationship and treat you the way you deserve, then you owe it to yourself to give it a try. And yes, you may not be physically attracted to this person, but if you can look past that and this person possesses all of the aforementioned qualities, then you have a great foundation for a solid relationship.

Let me know if you have any more questions or need me to clarify anything!

And I’ll leave you with this quote:

“Never was anything great achieved without [risk]” - Niccolo Machiavelli 

I just realized that I don’t like saying goodbyes..

something about ending a convo, a trip, a relationship, a meeting, an interaction…anything, is just awkward to me. 

The sh*t I do when I am by myself lol

;-)

You’d be surprised….

God is Good!

I got a subletter for my apartment!! Off to DC I go! 

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Done and done :)

My hair cut/2nd big chop???

I keep getting asked if I got the big chop…

Idk if I would consider it the “big chop” because I was already natural to begin with (I already had the big chop a few years ago). I guess, to me, the big chop is when you cut off all your relaxed or heat damaged straight ends and as a result you are only left with natural hair. Maybe that is why I don’t consider it the big shop. It was A big chop (cutting off my shoulder length hair) lol, but it wasn’t THE big chop. Does that make sense? lol

 Nonetheless…

Since my junior/senior year in undergrad, I had always wanted to cut my hair short but didn’t have the guts to do so. I wanted a short Halle Berry cut, specifically this Nia Long cut. I also wasn’t into perming my hair (my hair dresser at the time told me that I had to get a perm to achieve this look -___-)  and didn’t see short natural hairstyles that I liked, so that also halted my plans.

Anywho, fast forward to now. 2 weeks ago, one morning, I woke up and realized that I was tired of weaves and braids, and while they were cute, they were becoming boring/mundane.

Then I came to the conclusion—an epiphany rather—of why I didn’t want to rock my natural hair. It was literally because I didn’t know how to style it in a way that I liked or felt complemented me. Yes, I couldve done a bantu knot or a two strand twist, but I just didn’t think those complemented me—at least in the style that I had my natural hair in. To me, no matter what type of hairstyle that I have in (braids, weaves, wigs, natural hair, etc.)…if it’s not styled in a way that I like—in a way that I feel complements me, I won’t feel comfortable rocking it. Period.Point.Blank.

It was then, April 21st, that I decided that I wanted to cut my hair in some short edgy way—in a style that I actually like. I had been seeing a lot of edgy/shaped TWAs! So I said, why not? YOLO! Worse case scenario I can wear a wig lol Hair DOES grow back. 

And I love it! Best decision ever! And since this whole natural hair journey thing, I have been seeing people with TWAs getting their hair straightened (without chemicals—so much for what my hair dresser said -___-) So I think Im gonna try my Halle Berry/Nia Long look next! (I can’t with this up coming humidity on the East Coast….but I will try it when I go back to Cali in June!) Eyyy!! Turn Up ! lol

Testimony

I’m not one to brag, so I wont go into specifics, but I WILL say how amazing God is. 

The past few months have been trying. I questioned whether God was listening to me and whether I was doing something wrong. I would ask God for something, and he wouldn’t answer my prayer. I guess he was testing not only my patience, but also my faith in him. It got to the point where I just surrendered and came to the realization that God is the one paving the way and if he wants me to move in one direction, I have to have faith and move in that direction. Once I came to that realization, God began to move in ways that I couldn’t have imagined. 

I serve an awesome God and I apologize for ever doubting his ability to move in my life. 

What I thought I wanted…God blessed me with more/better/greater! As humans, we only see part of the picture, while God is the one painting the whole picture. I thought a particular thing was what I wanted but then God blessed me with something that I couldn’t even have imagined.

It’s amazing; he’s amazing. God truly has blessed me beyond my wildest dreams and I am excited to see what these next few years will become.

Do not limit God. If you believe, believe in him wholeheartedly—lesson learned.